In the aftermath of my divorce, I’d spend at least two hours a weekend with my friend Amber. Our kids went to school together and two of our daughters played in the same netball team. She was my closest ‘mum friend,’ and the first person I turned to when things went haywire. I really leaned on Amber in many ways. She was always kind, always willing to help me and, because we both went through a divorce around the same time, we had a lot to say to each other – particularly when it came to talking about our ex-husbands.
They belong to your friend and it would look real bad for you to make a move on that person. Fast forward and now they are no longer with your.
Dear Carolyn: About 20 years ago, my husband and I befriended this other couple. We were all recently married then. The husbands had a falling out seven years ago and we all stopped speaking. She particularly shunned me after their argument, which had nothing to do with me or her. I felt pretty sad but moved on. Fast forward to when I was divorced for one year and they were separated and in divorce proceedings.
He and I reconnected and started dating , and we have fallen in love. While we never even flirted while we were all married, we always got along. I have never been happier in my life. It was all above board, no shenanigans. He is now divorced and upon finding out about us, she has had a major meltdown.